[You will want to read this short motivational post until the end]
If you think YOUR 2018 was shitty, wait until you hear about mine… Mine started literally “shitty” 💩from Day 1… 😂 But more about that in just a moment…
Sidenote: If you finish reading this quick post and your 2018 was just as shitty or shittier than mine, feel free to call me up any time. Let’s talk. Friends are those who help us gain stability when life is turbulent. Even Facebook friends. 😉
(If not for so many of you, getting back on my feet would have been 10X as hard. Mat Eo, Eugen Etzel, just to name a few of all those amazing friends I have!)
Now let’s get cracking…
They say the way you get into the new year represents how the whole year will be for you. Right?
I don’t know if this is just some stupid superstition or it’s real. If you ask enough people, you’ll probably realise that this is only true in half of the cases… But that’s not the point of this post, even though as a side: The human mind is capable of believing ANYTHING anyway, no matter how unbelievable the thing is. It’s called cognitive bias (but more about that in just a second and how I was forced to learn human psychology the hard way in 2018).
For the point of this post, let’s believe that it’s real:
1) Spend NYE good = good year. 👍
2) Spend NYE shitty = shitty year. 👎
So there was a huge difference between 1 and 2:
1) The way I met 2018 one year ago should have been amazing… In theory. I was on a beautiful island in the Andaman Sea in Thailand. Beautiful beach. Beautiful weather. Beautiful woman. Almost no people, as it’s only an island for researchers to study the turtle population. No tourists allowed. Only a few dozen tents with nature lovers. No electricity. No modern life. No wifi! It was a secret tip by my man Andy Wullmer, who knows the top spots in the world for diving and snorkelling. Really amazing place to sync with nature. Hit him up for more info!
I fell asleep before midnight in our tent, only being woken up by the Royal Thai Navy NYE cannon fire at midnight. I didn’t realise that the new year had started and I fell asleep again. At 3pm I woke up. Something was inside me that forced itself out. I was too sleepy to realise what it was. It could have been an alien creature. If you ever had to open a tent urgently in the middle of the night, you know how uncertain the outcome of the situation was. The struggle was real. 😂
I managed to rip the tent open. Success! But we’re not done yet. Next step… Barely putting my flip flops on I ran towards the island toilet. I threw up on the sandy path half way there. I should have registered for a guinness world record for fastest running while puking… 🤮🏃🏻♂️😂
I finally reached my destination and just sat down… Out came some more. I won’t describe the graphic details. But you knew what you signed up for: Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you at the beginning of this post how shitty it will be. 😜
So I sat there for a few hours. Being occupied with various bodily functions. Meditating and becoming one with my surroundings. Ommmmmm 🧘🏻♂️
When you feel like shit, it’s a good time to realise how much you appreciate the times when you felt amazing. Right? Haha.
One thing came to mind. I had learned one big lesson from my brothers and sisters in Colombia (from when I spent a lot of time with the native people and participating in their celebrations of life). The lesson was that when we’re purging (Puking/Diarrhoea/etc.) our body cleans itself from the bad stuff. It might be bad chemicals or toxins. Or the way they say it is that your organism cleans itself from negative energies that have been stored inside you. You can look at this symbolically, physically or spiritually. Keep this in mind as it’ll become important in a few seconds.
The way this story ended:
I felt feverish all day. Sometimes too hot and sometimes too cold. The sun was burning hot, even being in the shadow was unbearable. There was no doctor in sight. The next one would be a Royal Thai Navy doctor an hour away. If my condition worsened I’d have to go see him. But the nice Thai people on the island had some electrolytes and a little bottle of what they called “Flying Rabbit” for me. It tasted like that tasty cough syrup you get when you’re a kid. Mhhh, yummy… At least it stopped the uncontrollable bodily functions.
We had to leave the island one day earlier than planned. They put us on a speed boat that was passing by with 50 Chinese people. If you’ve ever found yourself in between a homogenous group of Chinese people you’ll start feeling strange. I don’t know why. 10X as strange when you’re suffering from food poisoning in that moment. 😂
It took a few days and the food poisoning was gone. A few weeks later I was back in Europe, only to forget about this experience for the rest of the year.
Fast forward to the summer…
And now we’re getting to the real meat of this post.
I had a business partnership that was going for on for 3 years and I had a girlfriend that I’ve spent a significant amount of time with.
The business partnership ended in the beginning of September. I knew I had to restructure my life financially, emotionally, spiritually and physically. So I went to my parents for a short period, just to get back on my own feet in every way. Just then it came out that the woman betrayed me in the worst way ever known to man. If you imagine what she did and multiply that 10X you might have an impression of what she did. And then some more. No woman has ever made me cry like a baby. But here I was, again releasing some of those negative energies mentioned earlier.
I was devastated. But if there’s one thing I hate, then it is to see myself as a victim. I strongly believe that we have the responsibility for everything that happens to us in our life. Sometimes we can’t change circumstances or what happened to us, but we are the ones who have control over the steering wheel for our own lives. That might sound like motivational guru bullshit. And it is until you REALLY understand it.
So I came to the conclusion that feeling like shit wasn’t an option anymore. Just like Barney Stinson once said “When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead”. It can be that simple. But having control over your own mind and thoughts is the key to this.
So one morning I wake up and decide that I’m not sad any more. In reality it took me one month of daily 2-hour-phone conversations with probably 50 different friends and a lot of mindset work… Just to wake up that morning and feeling great. I was hurt and law number 10 of Robert Greene’s book “48 laws of power” tells you that you should avoid negative people. It’s true. I usually also tell people to avoid energy vampires. And somebody who is sad or hurt will always take some of your energy. Negativity can spread easily.
But there’s one important distinction. If that friend of family member is negative just for a short period of time, it’s important to give them some of your positive vibe. If you feel 100% good, it’s good to give them some 10% of your good vibe. The 10% you’re “loosing” temporarily is not much for you, but for the other person it goes a long way! The problem only comes when the negative person stays negative permanently. And that’s where you need to cut the time your spend with them, as it will drain your energy permanently.
Everybody who knows me has an intrinsic feeling that I spread positive energy 24/7 to anybody. As I was told by the indigenous people in Colombia, my heart is a heart of gold, helping people all over the globe where I can. I spread positive vibes and sometimes even inspire people left and right. I don’t even do it on purpose. It’s just natural to me. I will help you grow and improve your life without expecting anything in return. A lot of people know this. So I was surprised by the HUGE amount of people who readily jumped on the phone with me, no matter how busy they were. Just as one out of many examples, Timon Hartung even left his Octoberfest celebrations just spend 3 valuable hours of his time with me on the phone (He’s running a business and just had a baby!). That’s the type of friends I have. I know that I have a lot of friends who have their priorities straight, which are: Love for your family and your “extended” family of friends. And obviously love for yourself (which is another way of loving your surroundings, but that’s for another discussion).
My friends and family were there for me. It showed me that the network I have built over so many years will always be there for me (within reason), just like I will be there for every single one of you.
So what’s next?
I stopped being sad and rolled up my sleeves to get back to work! I’m back to business!!
I was distracted for a month. Then I realised that to start making a living again I need my old projects back! A month prior to that I discussed with my previous business partner how we’re going to divide everything in a fair way. But for a month I didn’t see anything being transferred to me. No projects, no domains, no servers, no email databases and no money. Mhhh… He was in Colombia at that point. I called him up and say “Hey dude, you had a month now. Why isn’t everything transferred to me yet?”. I was slightly annoyed. I’m a nice guy all day long, but if people don’t do what they say they’ll do you will see a different side of me (that rarely anybody will ever witness, because I don’t work with people who don’t stick to their word as part of having my own-selfrespect).
He gave me some bullshit excuses like “Maaaan, it’s not that easy to transfer all your stuff to you” and promised to do it “soon”. He couldn’t give me a deadline until when he’d transfer my stuff to me. See, my mistake was that everything that was owned by him and his company. That worked well until a certain point… I was new in business and I thought it was a good way to do things. But we always learn in life and in business 😉
So what happened next:
The next day he changed all the passwords for everything. He took whole projects, domain names, email databases, servers and money that was still coming in (and that I generated). Plus he left me with huge debt. As he took everything that had the potential to generate income, I was left with nothing.
He stopped answering call, messages and emails. I couldn’t get through to him. If I had the money I would have flown to Colombia and punched him in his ugly face. I was that angry. But I was broke. So I had to postpone that part.
Instead of feeling awesome, I started feeling like shit again. Again, I called up a few dozen of my business friends. Just like with the girlfriend thing, a lot of people told me of similar stories that had happened to them.
Just think about all the crappy things that happen to us that nobody ever speaks about. I found that my friends opened up to me, we shared a lot of similar experiences. I estimate that at least half of my entrepreneur friends were cheated on a business deal at least once. Sometimes even to an extent that threatened their existence. If that stuff happens to you, reach out to me or other friends. It’s all about giving and receiving.
So I sat there with sad thoughts, but I had just learned how to get out of a bad state of mind, so it took me only a few days to feel productive and good again.
The situation was still shitty, but at least my mindset about it was constructive. I hate seeing myself as a victim. I like taking responsibility. I sat down and physically made a plan on paper. It was the month of October/November. The storm was hopefully over. Nothing worse could happen anymore. Only if something negative would have happened with my family, it could get worse. But luckily they’re all healthy and generally in a positive mindset. Only mom worries a little bit too much. But that’s normal I guess.
So I sat down to write…
What were my resources?
0 money. Debt actually. I took on A LOT of debt for my business partner (as he has a negative credit rating and is fleeing from a lot of people and companies he owes money to. I only figured this fact out later…. I should have seen the red flags…)
You can take all my money, but you can’t take 2 things from me:
My skills. And my network of people.
I made a plan. I set goals. One of the goals was a low five figure revenue for December. Just to prove to myself that I can.
And I started putting in 16 hour work days. I’ve never worked so hard. That’s what happens when you’re with your back against the wall. If you have a strong character you will fight yourself through the difficulties. You’ll find ways to make it work. There’s no other way.
I started doing what I do best. I called up and messaged half of my network. I created new projects. I tried to make it work. I started making other people a bunch of money. Some people whom I didn’t even know before, but who were introduced to my by my friends. People around me started being very happy. I started to see results.
80-90% of revenue are still costs, but all of it needs to be reinvested. So at this point I’m not over the hump yet. But I made it work. I achieved my goals.
I saw that taking responsibility of your own life is hard. But you can make it work if you want it to work.
Now, out of thin air I have stemmed a few projects that are making good money for everybody involved. If you’re reading this and you want to be part of this, give me a shout. The only requirement is of course that you have (male) DE, AT, CH traffic (or even if you know somebody who does, please introduce them to me!). If that’s the case, the probability is super high that I will make you money. Just send me a PM or call me 🙂
I’ve not heard from that ex business partner since then, despite hundreds of phone calls and messages. I only sent him one last email a month ago or so. I gave him an ultimatum for transferring everything within 24 hours to me. Or he’d have to expect certain legal consequences. Within 3 hours I had a reply and he transferred a few domain domains to me in a half-assed way (but none of the valuable things I could use to make money).
That closed this chapter for me. Some people really love messing with karma, and it’s not up to me to judge them for it.
That was 2018 for me in a nutshell. It ended with a big purge of people that are not worth being part of my extended family. Organisms clean themselves. It’s natures way of letting energy flow. The indigenous people knew it. Now you know it.
How did I spend NYE two days ago?
2) I worked my ass off. I put in a 16 hour day again. I made some people money while other people were taking off the holidays. At midnight I went over to see my close friend Mat Eo. I spent some time talking with him about life, love, business and we parted. I went back to work.
01st January 2019 I had my most profitable day in many months.
Life is funny.
2018 was all about forcing negative energy out of our organisms (An organism can be any cumulation of living components: One human, a group of humans, a whole continent. The whole world is an organism!). It was all about cognitive biases… Ah wait, I mentioned that in the beginning… So about that…
You know those times when you see tons of red flags with a person?? But you don’t reaaaally see them? Maybe you don’t want to see them. Maybe you’re wearing pink glasses that give a different shade to the red flags! It helps to understand human cognitive biases. It will help you navigate through life, and it will make you avoid pitfalls in life and in business. Knowing your own (and other people’s cognitive biases) will make you tons of more money in business. Charlie Munger had a great video about that. Go check it out on YouTube. That’s all I’m going to say about that for now, as otherwise the post will be too long…
2018 was all about going through hell. As a person whom I admire a lot once told me (Thommy Oliver, of the most colourful people I’ve had the honour to get to know on this journey called life): His theory is that life comes in cycles. The higher you go up the lower you’ll go down. In the end you’ll end up with a sum of 0. But it’s a hell of a ride, if you’re aiming to get higher. My experience confirms his theory. And I have to say for myself: I’m ready for the ride! Bring it on baby!!
After all, 2018 ended amazing. I went to see my extended family in Bangkok at Affiliate World Conferences. When I go there, I always feel like it’s a family reunion. Thank you to Loz Green and the whole STM team for offering a platform for us. The STM community took me lovingly a few years ago when I knew nothing about affiliate marketing. So many people helped me step foot into the industry. I’ve made lifelong friends. People that I call true friends whom I can count on and who can count on me. I’ve never missed out on the AW conferences and I will do my best to never miss out on any of the STM events. See y’all in Barcelona soon! 😉
2019 will be all about relationships. Be loving to family, be kind and loving to friends. And most importantly be kind and loving to yourself. Because, let’s be real: If you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t be there for the people you love. That’s why they tell you in airplanes that you need to put your oxygen mask on first before you put it on your children! So you need to be in a great relationship with yourself first. One book that helped me with that was “Love Yourself”. It’s a short 20 minute read and it will change your life forever, I promise (You can get it here: https://amzn.to/2LL6cJM). In 2019 I will be there for you, for me, for my family, for everybody that wants to talk with me (with reasonable intentions of course).
Also, 2019 will be about business. We’re going to rise to phenomenal heights. Yesterday I sat down and made the plan. Again, on a piece of paper. I know it’s going to work. If you want me to reveal the plan to you, PM me. Chances are if you have traffic, a product, a network, or anything else (or even if you have nothing), we can find ways of doing stuff together. If we don’t there’s always my network and I’ll introduce you to somebody you can do business with. I give value unconditionally, I take value non-expectantly.
If you want to work with me and make more money for yourself and the important people in your life, feel free to reach out. Most likely you know what I do anyway, so give me your ideas, I’ll give you mine. Let’s talk. I’m game. I want your 2019 to rock.
I love you all.
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